I’m just a few days into a very tough period. I don’t want to talk publicly about the details, but I want to talk publicly about the process. I know from the past that when I share about my struggles, others benefit. I ask you to think the same way if you are going through a difficult period.
If you don’t want to share the details of your situation, at least share how you are feeling.
During the video below, someone asked how it was possible to get support from others without letting them know the details of what has happened. If you have friends with healthy boundaries, they will gladly support you while honoring your boundaries about keeping the details to yourself.
Situations like this come up most when your difficulties concern loved ones who, of course, have the right to privacy. In these cases, it’s appropriate to share with your closest confidant so you can have the support of at least one person who knows the details and can help give a reality check on your proposed actions. This will benefit your loved one as well.
Regarding my circumstances, the first thing I did was share the details with my partner Janet so that I could receive immediate emotional support from her and rational support in the form of her evaluating actions I was thinking of taking.
I have to admit that I was at least a day into this before I started to hit a wall and remembered that I needed to prioritize self-care. At that point I had already skipped my daily meditation as well as my exercise, so I made a call to Janet just to share that I was officially putting myself back on track. That call was followed by a run and meditation.
It’s during these tough times when I have to be aware that I always have a choice.
I can choose to give in to the difficult moment and give up on my self-care activities or I can choose to make time to take care of myself, which allows me to be at my best during the time when I most need it.
In the video below, I talk more in depth about the steps we can take for self-care when we’re going through difficult times.
Please feel free to comment below and tell me what you do for self-care during difficult times.