Janet and I were called to the home of a client who was experiencing the presence of a man in her basement. She said she could feel him watching and sometimes leaning over her as she worked on refinishing the area. Also, her dog appeared to be playing with some unseen person while she worked.
She mentioned this to her neighbors and they told her that a man had hung himself in the basement years ago.
I have to say that having prior knowledge of this event made me a bit uneasy as the date for this clearing approached. I had cleared homes containing the ghosts of murder victims before, but to my knowledge, I had not yet crossed over someone who had committed suicide. I wondered what kind of emotional state the Earth-bound spirit would be in? Would he be agitated? Depressed?
Our usual preliminary walkthrough revealed that there was certainly some strong energy in the basement, so we began our clearing there. We burned a bowl of Epsom salts as we sat in meditation. We waited a bit, but nothing. No ghost.
Janet felt like he was hiding so we made our intentions known. We told him that we meant him no harm. Finally, in my mind’s eye, I saw him coming out of the back room. There he was, a young man in his late 20’s to early 30’s approaching me and reaching his hand out to touch mine. He was so soft and careful. He did it again, the second time he held on to my hand a bit. He had long thin arms and a very slender frame.
What stood out most about this man was his gentleness. He was not what I was expecting. He wasn’t agitated at all and he had such a kind heart.
I asked Janet what she was seeing and her experience was exactly the same as mine, she saw a quiet, gentle soul. I said, “He seems effeminate to me.” “Yes! Me too,” she replied, and we both agreed that he was most likely gay.
Sometimes, while doing this work, information will find it’s way to you that unlocks everything, connecting puzzle pieces and bringing clarity to a mystery. That’s how this went down. It all made sense.
This gentle, feminine young man was not accepted by his family or his community. He felt unloved. He felt like he didn’t fit in anywhere, and, unfortunately, suicide became an option for him.
He knew he was safe with us and ended up sitting down and hanging out for a bit while we figured all of this out. He expressed his happiness that we were accepting of who he was. He hadn’t experienced this sort of acceptance in his short lifetime.
Convincing an Earth-bound spirit to cross over requires some knowledge of what they’ve been through and an understanding of how they feel. After all, we are strangers walking into their environment and within minutes we’re asking them to make a huge decision, to decide to move on to the unknown of Heaven or whatever exists in their belief system.
This knowledge and understanding came into play when we first asked him to move on. We were asking a man who had not felt validated by his family or community to leave us, his new found accepting friends, and cross over to a place where he feared he might be shunned again. In fact, because of his past, he did not want to join his family members on the other side at all.
So, with this knowledge of how he felt, we were able to convince him that there were many more loving and accepting people on the other side who would embrace him. He would have a new family there, a family of friends.
He loved the idea of being greeted by such loving people and quickly accepted the hand of a helping angel and moved on. I have developed a go-to visual for witnessing the moment of cross over. In my mind’s eye, I see only the spirit’s legs and feet hanging down from a hole in the sky or ceiling that is just large enough for them and their helper angel. The legs disappear into the hole, leaving only the feet. When the feet finally go through, I assume they’ve crossed, but I always do a final check. I try to imagine the spirit hanging out with us, and I get a sort of empty response. Then I know for sure. They’ve moved on.
And so it was with this gentle soul. We know he’s in loving hands and we’re happy we were able to help him find his way.
Once again, I was humbled by my experience. I was expecting a tortured and agitated spirit, but instead, I was privileged to have a very touching and meaningful connection with this gentle soul.
Take care my friend.